Pray for me.
I do, Oliver. I do. This looks like fun, though:
In his book How Not to F*** Them Up – the sequel to his 2002 book They F*** You Up – James writes: "As a parent of a child of this age, you need to realise that if things go pear-shaped it is actually always your fault, in the sense that if you keep a close enough eye on them you can prevent atrocities."
He says that young children "need to be in the presence of a responsive, loving adult at all times", warning mothers who go out to work that day care is associated with more boastful, disobedient and aggressive children.
Of course, there are a lot of factors at play here. I fully believe that a young child should have its mother close at hand most of the time, rather than some minimum wage couldn’t-care-less-assistant. Studies have linked young children put into daycare with antisocial behaviour patterns.
But, women have to work due to the cost of housing and the opportunity cost of being out of the workplace for years at a time. It could be argued that this is an iterative consequence of womens’ lib encouraging mothers into the workplace and thus inflating property prices due to larger – joint – buying power. Having been encouraged to work, mothers, even with husbands that earn well, soon found that they had no choice but to work, to help service a big mortgage.
There are a husband’s future interests at stake too. Divorce a woman who you’ve been supporting for 10 years and they’ll take you to the cleaners. If the woman has been earning & contributing significantly for most of the time, you’re probably on for a 50/50 split.
So, perhaps enabling your wife to run the household and share your income may be a wonderfully romantic and appealing image of marriage, especially if you earn plenty and your adoring wife keeps a pristine home. But ultimately, you’re sealing your fate.
Going back to James’ book for a moment though, the people likely to read, digest and understand the book are, I’d wager, a tiny proportion of women. Enlightened, self-aware, educated and emotionally grounded. And in those cases, it can only reinforce the case against breeding.
Meanwhile, the only women who do breed with alacrity, and do get to stay at home with their kids, are the ones we’re all paying for.
It’s all arse-about-face. Fat chance of IDS fixing any of it, I fear.